We have already heard about the female G-spot. They opened it, searched hard, did not find it, and (apparently out of frustration) questioned its existence.
As soon as the noise died down a little, there you go! – there are rumors that men also have a G spot!
By the way, it is much easier to find it.
What is this?
The male G-spot is often called the P-spot. The "P" stands for prostate.
Recall that the prostate is a walnut-sized gland located just below the bladder.
The P-spot is not only responsible for orgasms, but also aids in reproduction by producing seminal fluid and helping sperm live long and prosper once they are expelled from the penis.
How to find?
Two ways - inside and outside. You can search for the G-spot in any way - a man will get amazing sensations in any case. It all depends on the degree of trust between the partners.
- Inside. This point is located two inches from the entrance to the anus. Approximately at the level of the first joint of the finger.
- From the outside, the prostate can also be stimulated through the perineum. The skin between the scrotum and anus is literally stuffed with nerve endings. This should not be forgotten during oral sex.
How to stimulate the prostate?
First - dialogue
It is unlikely that a man will be happy if his other half suddenly decides to start such experiments. Some people are very scrupulous about everything related to anal play. Therefore, dialogue comes first.
It is very important to treat each other with respect and remember that everyone cannot be turned on by the same things. If your former partner loved such techniques, this does not mean that the current man will be delighted with it.
Equipment
In order for the search for the P point to bring maximum pleasure to both partners, you need to prepare. You will need:
Lubrication
Any anal sex is impossible without lubricant. Choose a high-quality lubricant, such as a silicone-based one.
Condom
Where the anus is, there are bacteria. Yes, not very romantic, but such is life. Don't forget to put a condom or latex glove on your finger.
Anal toys
Choose according to your taste. They will add thrill.
Not forget!
Hands
Hands should be washed thoroughly, and nails should be rounded and trimmed. Infections and injuries are not part of your plans, right?
Create the mood
The man should be relaxed and sexually aroused. Hot bath, sensual massage, caresses - don't skimp on foreplay.
Let's get down to business
The man is relaxed and you are ready to start searching for that magic point?
But don’t rush things – start with external stimulation.
Try this:
- Use the tips of your index and middle fingers to rub and stroke the perineum.
- Experiment, alternate between different speeds and intensities.
- With your other hand, caress the penis and scrotum.
If you're ready to move on:
- Apply lubricant to your finger and slowly insert it into the anus 2 - 5 cm.
- Feel around carefully to find the prostate. It should feel smooth and round to the touch.
- Once you feel it, start making gentle "come here" movements with your finger.
- Ask a man about his feelings. Speed, intensity - does everything suit him?
- Add hand caress or blowjob to the process - a powerful orgasm is guaranteed for the man.
Reminder for the receiving party
The first thing you should do is relax. Only in this case you can get maximum pleasure. And:
- Speak. About your feelings and the boundaries of what is permitted.
- Toilet. Stimulation of the prostate and anal penetration can cause the urge to both urinate and defecate. With such a combination it is difficult to relax. Visiting the toilet (and taking a bath) before games is a must.
- Comfort. Create all the conditions for yourself. Let nothing distract you.
- Enjoy. Everything that happens should bring you pleasure. Ask your other half to use more (less) lubricant, use sex toys, change positions, and don't be silent if something doesn't feel right.
Poses
You can choose any position in which both partners will be comfortable. But you can start with one of these:
- Face down. The man lies on his stomach and spreads his legs slightly. The partner places a pillow under his hips and sits behind him.
- Doggy. He gets on all fours, his partner is located behind him.
- On the side. The man lies on his side with one knee pressed to his chest. The partner lies down from behind so that it is comfortable for her to stimulate the partner’s anus.
I did not like
This is fine. There is nothing in sex that absolutely everyone likes. Perhaps it's just not your thing.
If both partners are interested in continuing the experiment, you can try again. And so, by trial and error, find a technique that both would like. Experiment with positions, sex toys and the amount of lubricant.
Pleasure Map
There are still a bunch of "hot spots" on a man’s body, which many people for some reason forget about. An unforgivable omission!
Pay attention to areas such as:
- The head of the penis. This area is stuffed with nerve endings. Hand touching, licking, sucking - use it all. Especially during prostate play. Don't forget about lubrication.
- Frenum. This is an elastic leathery fold that connects the lower part of the head of the penis with the foreskin. Insanely sensitive. Competent manipulation of the frenulum will give a man a powerful orgasm. The frenulum can be stimulated with the tongue or the thumb of your free hand.
- Scrotum. Prostate massage combined with scrotal massage will give a man maximum pleasure. Connect a vibrating toy to the process.
P. S. You can do without sex toys, scented candles and erotic music. But it won’t be possible without trust and relaxation. Focus on what's important.
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Many men categorically refuse G-spot stimulation. Moreover, a huge number of guys do not know at all what the prostate is and where it is located! This disgrace needs to be corrected - try to gradually liberate the man in bed and do not give up experimenting. Nobody says to take a huge dildo and chase a man around the bedroom with it. Carefully, gradually go down to the area under the testicles - this can be done during a blowjob. Try different stimulation techniques and monitor the man’s reaction. It is very unlikely that he will refuse - he will definitely like it. And then you can go directly to the G-spot.
G-spot in men: where it is and how to stimulate it correctly
According to the Greeks, the mysterious G-spot in men is the second heart. This poetic name is due to the fact that it is from this point that the entire process of arousal begins. If you specifically influence this area, you can achieve a vivid orgasm. To please a man, it is not enough just to find the "magic button". You need to learn how to stimulate it correctly.
What is meant by the G-spot in young people?
A man's G-spot is the prostate gland, the stimulation of which causes the muscles to contract. Thanks to this, the guy is able to get a lot of vivid sensations. Such an orgasm is much more colorful than the one that appears in a young man during stimulation of the genital organ.
The male G spot is a real find for unearthly pleasure. But to activate the magic button, you need to know where to look for it.
Where is the erogenous point located and how to find it
To give your partner a powerful orgasm, you need to know where the treasured G-spot is located in men. Its location is very interesting. If a guy’s penis is on the outside, then the treasured "button" is located in the area between the rectum and pubic bones. It has the shape of a walnut or chestnut, occupies about 4 cm2 of area and weighs no more than 20 g.
In all men, the G arousal point is located below the bladder - in the upper part of the urethra. To detect it, you need to penetrate the anus to a depth of 5-7 cm. As soon as you can feel a small bulge, you can consider that the goal has been achieved.
Men are often embarrassed to search for the G-spot for fear of being branded as lovers of same-sex love. To get true pleasure, you need to get rid of this stereotype. There is nothing wrong with learning and using the magic pea. You need to learn how to stimulate her correctly and then sex with your beloved woman will take on new colors.
How to properly stimulate the area
In order for the G-spot to provide maximum pleasure, it is necessary to properly prepare for the stimulation process.To do this you need:
- Cleanse the rectum with a laxative or enema.
- Work on trust as a couple. If you ignore this stage of preparation, the guy will not be able to relax and in the end will only get painful sensations.
- The girl needs to cut her long nails. If it accidentally injures the inner mucous membrane of a man, this will lead to the formation of inflammation.
- In order for G-spot stimulation to take place without unpleasant consequences, strict adherence to hygiene rules is required. Before the process, you must wash your hands with soap and then put on medical disposable gloves.
- During stimulation, sexologists advise using a special intimate lubricant, which will facilitate the penetration of female fingers into the anus. It's called a lubricant. The more there is, the better. It is advisable to choose a lubricant with lidocaine, a substance that helps reduce discomfort. But it is important to remember that the analgesic effect of the lubricant begins after 10-15 minutes.
- In order for the G-spot examination to be painless, the young man needs to take a comfortable position. A good option is the lying position: the guy is on his back, and the girl is between her legs.
With your hand
When the man has taken a comfortable position, the girl needs to warm up his body with a massage. The partner needs to get to her lover’s scrotum and massage the testicles and anus in a circular motion. Conventionally, this zone is considered the external G point in men and boys.
To distract your partner, you can use oral sex. You need to insert your fingers into the anus carefully and slowly, as if screwing in a screw. This will allow you to move apart the folds of the skin without causing any traumatic effects and increasing the pleasant sensations.
Once you manage to find the G-spot, you should not turn it into a stuck button or joystick. The girl needs to imagine that under the finger there is a clitoris, which needs to be lightly pressed and caressed using soft circular movements. When a man approaches the climax, sexologists recommend rhythmically pressing the G-spot approximately 1 time per 1 second.
Using special devices
You can give your loved one pleasure with the help of sex toys. They allow you to influence both the outer and inner "pea".Modern erotic toys include:
- anal beads;
- vibration stimulators;
- dildos.
Sexologists recommend using anal beads for untrained men. To do this, they need to be placed in the anus and not removed until the end of intimacy with the lady.
When orgasm is "on the threshold", the woman needs to start taking out 1 ball at a time. This will give a man amazing pleasure. When the guy gets used to such intimate games, you can take other devices to bed. They should be used in the same way as your fingers.
Precautions and contraindications
Not all men can influence the prostate. There are a number of contraindications to this type of intimate caresses.These include the following diseases:
- haemorrhoids;
- chronic inflammation of the prostate gland, as well as acute prostatitis;
- polyps;
- problems with urination;
- inflammatory processes in the rectum.
If during anal caresses mistakes are made in the technology of stimulation, hygiene rules are not taken into account, and contraindications are ignored, then infections will occur in the prostate and inflammatory processes will worsen. Before an intimate experiment, it is advisable to consult a doctor.
G-spot stimulation in young people is not only a pleasant, but also a useful procedure that has a beneficial effect on men's health. Don't be shy about exploring your own body. The more points of pleasure can be found, the better.
G-spot massage: everything for men and women, effective techniques
Understanding true lust from intimacy is impossible without carefully studying the erogenous zones of both your partner and yourself. This knowledge will give you the opportunity to receive the greatest pleasure. The G-spot plays a significant role in finding and studying erogenous zones. Anyone who wants to get the most out of intimacy should learn how to massage the G-spot.
A few words about the history of the G spot
Sexuality has largely been studied from a woman's perspective. For the male body, it was previously believed that the onset of orgasm and ejaculation is the greatest pleasure from sex, although later they revised their views. Around the 80s of last year, sexologists (mainly in Western countries) increasingly began to come across patients who experienced a jet orgasm (or squirt).
Such women described their sensations as multiple (in a short time) orgasm, powerful and vivid. However, several decades ago, in 1950, the German gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg spoke about a special zone in the female genital organs, the stimulation of which led to increased sexual desire and rapid orgasm, as well as the release of fluid as a result.
Some time later, after the death of the scientist, this zone began to be called briefly - point G. In some sources you can also find such a description - point j, which is a definition of the same thing.
Much later, scientists determined that a similar zone exists not only in women, but also in men. In other words, a man can get a stronger and brighter orgasm if a certain area is stimulated during caresses.
Location of the G-spot in women
This is one of the most common questions that people ask. To begin with, you should understand that you should not look for a "point" or "pea", as many believe, but a zone, an area. This zone is located in the vagina, on the front wall, approximately 3-5 cm from the entrance to it. This area is not located directly on the wall, but as if inside it, that is, it is not the mucous membrane that needs to be stimulated, but the tissues located deeper.
To further understand the location of the g-spot in women, it is necessary to locate the ureter. Closer to the exit of urine from the ureter, right around it, Skene’s glands (or paraurethral glands) are located, which are responsible for the most voluptuous sensations. If the girl is lying on her back, then the zone itself will be located directly under the pubis and clitoris.
You can try to feel this area by palpation, that is, feel it with your fingers. To do this, the woman lies on her back. The man turns his hand with the palm facing him and carefully inserts 1 or 2 fingers into the partner’s vagina. Now you need to carefully probe the front surface of your partner’s vagina with your fingertips. After 3-5 cm from the entrance, you can feel some lumpiness and roughness. For some, the surface of the zone even resembles the sky in the mouth. The internal tissues of this zone are the desired G-spot.
G-spot stimulation in women
There are several ways to stimulate this area. Some require the presence of a partner, others can be carried out independently, and others require the mandatory use of special devices (sex toys). So, here are the most common methods:
Using your fingers
This is the simplest and most accessible way. You can use your fingers to stimulate the desired area either alone or in the presence of a partner, which will additionally excite both. A man can also massage his partner’s G-spot, which will allow him to track the degree of her arousal and literally control the entire process, speeding up or slowing down certain stages of stimulation.
So, your hands must be clean, because basic hygiene rules are literally the safety of your partner and yourself. It’s a good idea to have a lubricant on hand, because lubrication always reduces friction and improves gliding. Meanwhile, some couples avoid lubrication because they believe it reduces sensitivity.
In any case, the girl must be excited, which means that this process must involve foreplay (any kind - kissing, touching and even cunnilingus). Only when the partner literally gets wet "down there" can you begin to stimulate the G-spot. The finger must be inserted carefully, probing every millimeter inside.
Having found the desired area, you should intensify the massaging movements, lightly pressing towards the skin. The finger is constantly looking up. If everything is done correctly, the likelihood of your partner getting an orgasm soon is very high.
During sexual intercourse
Surprisingly, stimulating the G-spot in women during sex is not as easy as it might seem. Here you should take into account positions for intercourse as much as possible. The angle of penetration should be such that the required area is constantly exposed to friction by the head of the partner’s penis.
For example, the most famous missionary position in the classic version is not suitable for the desired purposes, because penetration occurs from top to bottom, and not vice versa. To stimulate the G-spot, you need to slightly raise your partner's pelvis so that her pubis is at the same level as the man's groin area. In this state, the angle of penetration will be "vertical", which means that the G-spot will be naturally stimulated by the head of the penis.
Everyone's favorite dogi-style pose should also be slightly adjusted. A man should not lean on his knees, but stand on his feet with his legs slightly bent. His pelvis will be slightly higher than the level of his partner’s vagina, and the head of the penis will just rest against the front wall of the vagina, where the desired area is located. Finally, there is one more position for those women who love the "on top" position.
In this case, you should position yourself by turning 180 degrees towards your partner, so that the man’s head is between the girl’s legs, and she rests her elbows on the surface of the bed. The front parts of the partners' bodies look up, and their faces look at each other. Here the zone is stimulated by the outer edge of the head of the penis. Here the woman herself regulates and controls the process, which means she is able to get the most vivid orgasm.
Using sex toys
Everything is very simple here. In specialized stores you can find devices, most often dildos, in which the end is slightly bent upward, which contributes to a more expressive effect on the desired area. Such devices may have additional characteristics - rotation, vibration, different textures and shapes, as well as modes. You can also perform stimulation using them independently or with a partner.
Prostate stimulation: what kind of organ is it?
The prostate is located under the bladder at the beginning of the urethra behind the pubic bone. She has a huge role in sexual, reproductive function and the act of urination. First of all, the prostate gland produces a fluid that makes sperm watery and motile. By studying the topic of how to stimulate a man’s prostate, you can help rid it of excess fluid and improve erections.
It is considered the male G-spot
Although the existence of this very point has been questioned (one plausible version is the internal part of the clitoris), it is important to understand that the prostate is also considered the "orgasm button". It is even called the second male heart. Once you learn how to stimulate his prostate so that he can cum, you will be able to completely conquer him and surprise him a lot.
Initially, massage had a medical purpose, but men quickly realized that it brings great pleasure. Excitement from G-spot stimulation relaxes the partner and maintains an erection. Applying knowledge of how and where exactly to stimulate the prostate helps to achieve a powerful and quick orgasm.
It's not that deep
The reproductive accessory gland is located behind the anal wall in the direction of the navel, a few centimeters from the sphincter. About three-quarters of a finger deep into the anus, that is, it is quite possible to reach it. Stimulation of the prostate must be very careful due to its high sensitivity.
Why do you need to stimulate the prostate?
Even if a man has a rough idea of how to stimulate the prostate for pleasure, there are other important reasons for this. So, for what purposes is massage needed:
- Improves blood circulation in the pelvic organs and blood circulation in the prostate gland.
- Outflow of lymph and secretions from the prostate, eliminating congestion, reducing swelling due to fluid accumulation, alleviating symptoms of prostatitis, for its treatment and prevention.
- Strengthening the muscles of the prostate gland.
- Strengthening erection and increasing potency, sexual desire.
- Accelerates the penetration of drugs into the gland.
How to massage the prostate
Ideally, you need to consult a doctor and watch a video on how to stimulate a man’s prostate. Despite the beneficial effects, the procedure can cause pain and even harm to the chosen one. But with skillful and careful handling, prostate massage will only be beneficial.
Discuss details
As with everything related to sex, you need your partner’s consent to any manipulation. This is the expansion of your intimate boundaries and the realization of sexual fantasies. If you're close enough, you can try this forbidden fruit.
Keep it simple
There is no need to turn prostate stimulation into an event of incredible proportions. Moreover, you don’t even have to insert your fingers inside! When discussing with your partner how you can stimulate the prostate, you can experiment.
For example, it will be easier to implement your plan in the knee-elbow position or on your side, preferably on the right. The knees need to be brought closer to the stomach. In this position it is easiest to relax the desired area. Another way to better stimulate the prostate from the outside is to massage the area around the anus or touch it with your tongue. Either make it part of oral sex while your hands are occupied with the penis, or pay attention to the area between the penis and the scrotum (indirect stimulation). There are many ways to achieve the desired result.
Relax
Both! Let the man lie on his back if he does not want to lift his pelvis upward, and you position yourself between his legs. When you feel he's ready, gently insert your finger into his anus and begin stimulating your husband or boyfriend's prostate.
If your fingers encounter obstacles during the massage, take your time and wait until he relaxes properly. Perhaps run your lips or fingertips over his body. In this case, guys also need foreplay. Sexologists even recommend not starting sexual intercourse with this. It is better to start the massage when you are both already sufficiently "warmed up" and orgasm is close.
But if you are so liberated and curious, it is not forbidden to try different variations, at the beginning, middle or towards the end.